What Exactly Is A Stay At Home Mom Wardrobe?

Motherhood, Style

I’ll let you in on a little secret, we don’t sit around in pajamas all day eating bonbons. But that doesn’t mean we get to wear what working moms wear. To illustrate the perils of the stay at home mom wardrobe,  I’m going to share my wildest fantasy…

Sometimes I imagine going back to work for one day. Wild, right?

I wake up, wash & style my hair, put on clean pants, a pair of heels, and drive to work. Once at work I drink my morning coffee. Ahh yeah, I drink it while it’s really hot, so hot I almost burn my tongue. No, no, I actually burn my tongue. That’s hot. During lunch hour I do that thing I see a lot of employed folks do on their breaks, where they bring a book and sit on a rock in the sunshine. As I do this I am not only reading but drinking another coffee, and it DOES NOT spill on my pants! P.S my pants are probably silk. I know, I know, I’m getting excited too. But just when you thought this fantasy couldn’t get any better, I go home at the end of the day, 9 hours later and my entire outfit is still CLEAN!

If you don’t know any better, aka you don’t own a child, you may be thinking, “But Jen, you don’t have to be employed to be able to wear silk pants and drink a hot coffee without suffering 3rd-degree burns on 85% of your torso.”  Listen, it’s not like I can’t wear nice clothing anymore, it’s just that I don’t want to! I wouldn’t want to risk losing a new pair of pants to paint, mud and human feces (cause these WILL end up on you if you hang around a toddler long enough).

So what does one wear while cleaning, cooking and chasing a shoeless child through the grocery store? I’ve compiled the following list of practical yet chic mom essentials that can withstand the daily mess of mommyhood but also keep you feeling good about your appearance!

Mom Wardrobe Essentials

1. Jeggings or super-stretchy jeans – If you don’t want to be a full-time tight wearing mom go buy yourself a decent pair of jeggings. High waist is best, to avoid plumbers butt when you bend over 67645 times a day to pick up your child. The best pair for hiding a bit of belly is Madewell High-Rise Women’s Jeans 


$135, Madewell

2. Great fitting tees in black, gray, and white (depending on the age of your child) – PROTIP: white hides newborn spit up, black hides post baby belly, gray hides nothing, and can show pit stains, basically wear gray when you’re not around your child. My favorite simple round neck tees are from Gap.



$24.95, Gap Fitted Tee


3. Knit sweaters and oversized cardigans – Make you look put together. Also most popular during the fall aka back to school, aka when you may have a few sacred hours to yourself. Wear that sweat, drink a latte, smile. Farfetch has a great selection of high-quality knits for those days when you want to throw on something special.



MSGM Oversized Knit via Farfetch


4. Ballet flats – No stilettos ever. Nope. Don’t be that mom. Thanks. Pretty Ballerinas makes a wide range of SUPER COMFY ballerinas every season in many different pretty fabrics and patterns.



Pretty Ballerinas 


5. Stylish sneakers – This is the perfect time to try out jeans + sneakers because they are very much in style. This look works best with skinny or cropped jeans, see #1.



Vans Old Skool Lite Sneakers


6. Comfy ankle boots – This is where a wedge is acceptable. But be wary of rolling your ankle. You can also get a fun pair of boots to dress up any outfit. I love Ninewest for booties, they always have a wide selection and are very affordable.



$180, Ninewest


7.Cross-body bag – LOOK MA, NO HANDS!



Mansur Gavriel





8. Chic shades – Cover under eye bags. Enough said. P.S this is a good item to invest in, a good pair of sunglasses usually lasts me three years.



Fendi Eyewear


9. Jersey dresses (maxi and knee length) – Don’t be afraid to wear jersey, it can be very flattering and some styles hide post baby belly very well. Especially if there is any ruching along the sides or in front. Choose white, black and gray, your staple colors.



Iro, Bias Cut Cold Shoulder Dress


10. Cool hat – Great for bad hair days or for making any plain outfit a bit more stylish. I love anything wide brimmed, or cute beanies like this one with every moms favorite day of the week (leave the kids with daddy day).



Saturday beanie hat



The Truth About Maternity Fashion

Motherhood, Style

Since the cats out of the bag that I’m expecting my second child in December, I can finally share what I’ve been giddy to share with the world for the past 5 months. I’m relieved and excited to share with you today, something very near and dear to my heart. No, I don’t have a fancy pregnancy shoot to share, and no I won’t be sharing “a conception story” (why though?)…

Truth be told, I’ve been dying to openly bitch and complain about something! I need to vent and get this off my chest.

Ladies, we haven’t come far from the days of our own mother’s pregnancies. I’ve seen the pictures, my beautiful mother, with her perm (LOL), wearing a tent with a table cloth pattern during all three of her pregnancies in the 80’s. No offense to my mom, or your mom, in the 1980’s there wasn’t much else to choose from. In the 80’s the goal of maternity fashion was to hide the bump, and the rest of your body I guess. Although today the styles have thankfully changed, I would say that respect for pregnant woman is still lacking in the fashion industry.

Variety, availability, and range of sizes. Personally, these are my three grievances with maternity fashion. I was pregnant in 2014 and now in 2017 and to be honest, things have gotten worse!

“Maternity” stores here in Toronto are lame. There I said it. The styles are more like something a 14-year-old would wear, there is nothing chic. I couldn’t hide my anger when I last visited one with my mother. My main complaint was that the cuts of the clothing and the patterns they used were juvenile, nothing I would wear even though keep in mind I’m not dressing for a work environment (I’m a stay at home mother). WHAT the F do woman wear to the office when they are pregnant? I shed a tear for them.

I admit there are several online options, such as Asos, but I personally have an issue ordering online when you can’t see the material, check out the quality and try on the item. Especially when you’re, not your usual size, and certain ahem, areas are much larger than they used to be. I’ve been reluctant to purchase online maternity clothing for these reasons.

Most woman I know, including myself, fight the need to purchase maternity clothing until they are in their third trimester. Why do you think they invented those stupid belly bands that are meant to keep your “regular size” jeans up even when you’re smuggling a basketball under your shirt? The inventor of that contraption just knew there was a  pregnant lady, somewhere out there, weeping in the Maternity section of a major department store because the selection was so shitty. A woman definitely designed the belly band. I know this because most men I’ve encountered in a retail environment are so clueless about how to dress a pregnant chick.

Last week, after visiting 3 H&M locations only to be told they don’t all carry the maternity line. So I drove out of my way to visit a location that supposedly does. My mother and I both searched the entire store twice over then concluded there was not any maternity clothing at said location. That’s when a helpful 20-something dude informed me that H&M has “Hidden the maternity stuff way in the back over there, right beside the newborn boy section, in the corner over there, do you see it?” Are you bloody serious?

The “maternity section” consisted of 20 pairs of black jeans (keep in mind it’s late July) and some t-shirt half hanging off hangers. I bought a pair of black jeans. I was desperate. H&M won.

Out of frustration, I took to the fashion blogs I follow. A lot of the girls I follow are pregnant or have just popped out a baby. I did some creeping on their sites and on Instagram only to discover that they too are avoiding actual maternity clothing. Zara, Aritzia, Club Monaco, these are not maternity lines. Yet every fashionable mother I’ve encountered online is exclusively wearing these lines until around 20 weeks. That’s exactly how many weeks I am today. So I guess I’ve reached the point of WTF!?

If you’ve been pregnant or know someone who was pregnant and still able to dress fashionably, and affordable please feel free to share your experience and shopping tips below. In the meantime, I’ll just be over here wishing I could get my hands on one of those table cloth tents from 1983.