What Exactly Is A Stay At Home Mom Wardrobe?

Motherhood, Style

I’ll let you in on a little secret, we don’t sit around in pajamas all day eating bonbons. But that doesn’t mean we get to wear what working moms wear. To illustrate the perils of the stay at home mom wardrobe,  I’m going to share my wildest fantasy…

Sometimes I imagine going back to work for one day. Wild, right?

I wake up, wash & style my hair, put on clean pants, a pair of heels, and drive to work. Once at work I drink my morning coffee. Ahh yeah, I drink it while it’s really hot, so hot I almost burn my tongue. No, no, I actually burn my tongue. That’s hot. During lunch hour I do that thing I see a lot of employed folks do on their breaks, where they bring a book and sit on a rock in the sunshine. As I do this I am not only reading but drinking another coffee, and it DOES NOT spill on my pants! P.S my pants are probably silk. I know, I know, I’m getting excited too. But just when you thought this fantasy couldn’t get any better, I go home at the end of the day, 9 hours later and my entire outfit is still CLEAN!

If you don’t know any better, aka you don’t own a child, you may be thinking, “But Jen, you don’t have to be employed to be able to wear silk pants and drink a hot coffee without suffering 3rd-degree burns on 85% of your torso.”  Listen, it’s not like I can’t wear nice clothing anymore, it’s just that I don’t want to! I wouldn’t want to risk losing a new pair of pants to paint, mud and human feces (cause these WILL end up on you if you hang around a toddler long enough).

So what does one wear while cleaning, cooking and chasing a shoeless child through the grocery store? I’ve compiled the following list of practical yet chic mom essentials that can withstand the daily mess of mommyhood but also keep you feeling good about your appearance!

Mom Wardrobe Essentials

1. Jeggings or super-stretchy jeans – If you don’t want to be a full-time tight wearing mom go buy yourself a decent pair of jeggings. High waist is best, to avoid plumbers butt when you bend over 67645 times a day to pick up your child. The best pair for hiding a bit of belly is Madewell High-Rise Women’s Jeans 

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$135, Madewell

2. Great fitting tees in black, gray, and white (depending on the age of your child) – PROTIP: white hides newborn spit up, black hides post baby belly, gray hides nothing, and can show pit stains, basically wear gray when you’re not around your child. My favorite simple round neck tees are from Gap.

 

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$24.95, Gap Fitted Tee

 

3. Knit sweaters and oversized cardigans – Make you look put together. Also most popular during the fall aka back to school, aka when you may have a few sacred hours to yourself. Wear that sweat, drink a latte, smile. Farfetch has a great selection of high-quality knits for those days when you want to throw on something special.

 

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MSGM Oversized Knit via Farfetch

 

4. Ballet flats – No stilettos ever. Nope. Don’t be that mom. Thanks. Pretty Ballerinas makes a wide range of SUPER COMFY ballerinas every season in many different pretty fabrics and patterns.

 

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Pretty Ballerinas 

 

5. Stylish sneakers – This is the perfect time to try out jeans + sneakers because they are very much in style. This look works best with skinny or cropped jeans, see #1.

 

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Vans Old Skool Lite Sneakers

 

6. Comfy ankle boots – This is where a wedge is acceptable. But be wary of rolling your ankle. You can also get a fun pair of boots to dress up any outfit. I love Ninewest for booties, they always have a wide selection and are very affordable.

 

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$180, Ninewest

 

7.Cross-body bag – LOOK MA, NO HANDS!

 

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Mansur Gavriel

 

 

 

 

8. Chic shades – Cover under eye bags. Enough said. P.S this is a good item to invest in, a good pair of sunglasses usually lasts me three years.

 

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Fendi Eyewear

 

9. Jersey dresses (maxi and knee length) – Don’t be afraid to wear jersey, it can be very flattering and some styles hide post baby belly very well. Especially if there is any ruching along the sides or in front. Choose white, black and gray, your staple colors.

 

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Iro, Bias Cut Cold Shoulder Dress

 

10. Cool hat – Great for bad hair days or for making any plain outfit a bit more stylish. I love anything wide brimmed, or cute beanies like this one with every moms favorite day of the week (leave the kids with daddy day).

 

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ALBERTA FERRETTI
Saturday beanie hat

 

 

Why You Should Try Out The Backpack Trend

Style

They are the most versatile bag out there at the moment, and hello, hands-free! 

Street Style : Day Five - Paris Fashion Week Spring/Summer 2017

Image from Far Fetch – Style Guide

For a few years now backpacks have resurfaced in a big way. The last time I remember this bag trend taking off was in the days of Cher Horowitz. Today anyone from woman and men, and mothers can sport a backpack without looking like they are going you know, backpacking.

In case you’re wondering if you can pull off the look, my friends at Far Fetch have put together a great little shopping guide, to help you style any backpack, for any occasion. For example, lady-like backpacks can be totally fine at a lady-like event.  Check out my picks of my favorite backpacks, even the most luxurious ones, you know those bags you drool over when you window shop. Stay tuned at the end of this post for the link to The Style Guide, by Far Fetch. For more bags and more inspo visit the  Far Fetch website

Women

See By Chloe $295 , Tory Burch $389, Moschino , Sophia Webster, Stella McCartney

Super Luxury

Anya Hindmarch, Fendi, Moschino, Chloe, M2malletier

Diaper Bags. Yes, DIAPER BAGS! 

Tiba+Marl $268

Men

Herschel Supply Co. $106,  Diesel, As2ov, Kenzo

Kids

MSGM Kids,  Gucci Kids, Bobo Choses , Kenzo

Don’t forget there’s even more inspo at The Style Guide

https://www.farfetch.com/uk/style-guide/

 

How To Sleep Like A Baby

Home, Style

Quick answer, it’s not just about your mattress… 

Lately, I haven’t been sleeping well. Blame it on the combination of peak allergy season + being 5 1/2 months preggers, or just blame my bedroom. This lack of sleep inspired me to research what can be done to zen out our bedroom; you know so that I can sleep longer than 3 hours.  As I suspected, creating a more tranquil sleep environment helps increase stress release, relaxation, and aids better sleep. Sign me up for all of that!

Most sleep experts recommend: keeping your bedroom clutter free and clean, buying 100% cotton sheets, trying out Aromatherapy, and investing in quality sleep clothing. There is no mention at all of investing in a high priced, trendy mattress or bed frame.

Keep It Clean

Your bed sheets should be your priority when you’re in cleaning mode. This is because bed sheets should be removed and washed every 7 days! This isn’t just an Italian mother cleaning obsession. There is science behind it, gross science. Your bed sheets collect sweat, body oils, saliva, outside dirt, sexual fluids (yes I went there) and even fecal matter. According to experts, if you have a cut or scratch on your body you risk getting an infection from dirty bed sheets.

Still, 1 in 20 of us washes our sheets only every four weeks. Not only should you change them more frequently, there is a particular recommended process. Microbiologists recommend washing your sheets in warm to hot water, and hanging to dry, to kill most microorganisms. It is also recommended to run a hot iron over your pillow cases, but I’ll admit that is too much, even for me.

Invest In Good Sheets

For me, this has to be the most difficult part about decorating a bedroom. For a husband and wife to agree on bedding there has to be a certain level of masculinity present and for some reason a lot of the color blue! I spent many, many months choosing our bedding. I read one popular interior designers recommendation to try out an entirely white bedding set. Sheets, pillows down filled blanket, cover and all. There is no way that would fly in our household, with a toddler and two large dogs constantly running through our room and jumping on our bed. It didn’t seem practical and I’m not sure how many households that would work for.

On the other hand, I have seen some photos of some bloggers bedrooms and let’s just say these husbands have no say in what goes down in their own home. No man wants to sleep on a bed that looks like a cupcake. The best compromise and my suggestion after years of struggle in this department, pick something with blue in it (yes their favorite color) but also with white and gray. Recently I got word that Ted Baker has released their luxury bedding collection in Canada.  Available at Hudson’s Bay the collection includes comforter sets, coverlets, and decorative pillows. The designs are bold floral prints, geometric and textured patterns, but are done in such a cool way I don’t think your husband would mind. I can see why sheets and comfortors of this quality, and that are this chic, would aid in better sleep.

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Aroma Therapy

So once you’ve chosen some pretty bedding (that your partner approves of) and you vow to wash it regularly, the next step is to get yourself a pair of PJs. Most adults sleep in sweat pants, the t-shirt they wore all day, their husband’s t-shirts (guilty), old PJs that are tight and restrictive, or just plain ol’ naked. I’m guilty of a few of these actually. But one thing I am doing right is using aromatherapy to fall asleep. This diffuser from Saje Natural Wellness is my favorite way to experience aroma therapy in my home.

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Have you already adopted some of these tips for a more zen sleep environment? Do they work? Do you have your own tips and tricks?

The Truth About Maternity Fashion

Motherhood, Style

Since the cats out of the bag that I’m expecting my second child in December, I can finally share what I’ve been giddy to share with the world for the past 5 months. I’m relieved and excited to share with you today, something very near and dear to my heart. No, I don’t have a fancy pregnancy shoot to share, and no I won’t be sharing “a conception story” (why though?)…

Truth be told, I’ve been dying to openly bitch and complain about something! I need to vent and get this off my chest.

Ladies, we haven’t come far from the days of our own mother’s pregnancies. I’ve seen the pictures, my beautiful mother, with her perm (LOL), wearing a tent with a table cloth pattern during all three of her pregnancies in the 80’s. No offense to my mom, or your mom, in the 1980’s there wasn’t much else to choose from. In the 80’s the goal of maternity fashion was to hide the bump, and the rest of your body I guess. Although today the styles have thankfully changed, I would say that respect for pregnant woman is still lacking in the fashion industry.

Variety, availability, and range of sizes. Personally, these are my three grievances with maternity fashion. I was pregnant in 2014 and now in 2017 and to be honest, things have gotten worse!

“Maternity” stores here in Toronto are lame. There I said it. The styles are more like something a 14-year-old would wear, there is nothing chic. I couldn’t hide my anger when I last visited one with my mother. My main complaint was that the cuts of the clothing and the patterns they used were juvenile, nothing I would wear even though keep in mind I’m not dressing for a work environment (I’m a stay at home mother). WHAT the F do woman wear to the office when they are pregnant? I shed a tear for them.

I admit there are several online options, such as Asos, but I personally have an issue ordering online when you can’t see the material, check out the quality and try on the item. Especially when you’re, not your usual size, and certain ahem, areas are much larger than they used to be. I’ve been reluctant to purchase online maternity clothing for these reasons.

Most woman I know, including myself, fight the need to purchase maternity clothing until they are in their third trimester. Why do you think they invented those stupid belly bands that are meant to keep your “regular size” jeans up even when you’re smuggling a basketball under your shirt? The inventor of that contraption just knew there was a  pregnant lady, somewhere out there, weeping in the Maternity section of a major department store because the selection was so shitty. A woman definitely designed the belly band. I know this because most men I’ve encountered in a retail environment are so clueless about how to dress a pregnant chick.

Last week, after visiting 3 H&M locations only to be told they don’t all carry the maternity line. So I drove out of my way to visit a location that supposedly does. My mother and I both searched the entire store twice over then concluded there was not any maternity clothing at said location. That’s when a helpful 20-something dude informed me that H&M has “Hidden the maternity stuff way in the back over there, right beside the newborn boy section, in the corner over there, do you see it?” Are you bloody serious?

The “maternity section” consisted of 20 pairs of black jeans (keep in mind it’s late July) and some t-shirt half hanging off hangers. I bought a pair of black jeans. I was desperate. H&M won.

Out of frustration, I took to the fashion blogs I follow. A lot of the girls I follow are pregnant or have just popped out a baby. I did some creeping on their sites and on Instagram only to discover that they too are avoiding actual maternity clothing. Zara, Aritzia, Club Monaco, these are not maternity lines. Yet every fashionable mother I’ve encountered online is exclusively wearing these lines until around 20 weeks. That’s exactly how many weeks I am today. So I guess I’ve reached the point of WTF!?

If you’ve been pregnant or know someone who was pregnant and still able to dress fashionably, and affordable please feel free to share your experience and shopping tips below. In the meantime, I’ll just be over here wishing I could get my hands on one of those table cloth tents from 1983.